As Your Confidence Grows, So Does Your Generosity
Did you know that the more confident a person is, the more generous, grateful and kind that person tends to be? It’s harboring insecurities that actually creates much of the disagreeable, self-focused and discontented demeanors we encounter and struggle with.
This was beneficial for me to understand because developing and teaching successful stewardship habits often begins with properly managing behaviors and emotions — for these propel our motives, and motives drive our behavior.
Understanding how confidence can impact our levels of kindness, generosity and gratitude flows directly to how we end up handling things like money, our careers and interactions with others.
Thankfully, as we develop our levels of generosity and gratitude, our level of confidence also rises, which ultimately allows us to better benefit others and even ourselves.
Confidence is obviously not the same thing as arrogance. Arrogance comes from a place of insecurity. It’s an outlook of being better than another, but this need for comparison comes from a place of judgment, perhaps because we feel judged and insecure. So, comparing ourselves to others to somehow find ways to feel better about ourselves is a pretty shallow mindset to operate by.
Confidence comes from a place of grounding and being aware of our flaws, weaknesses, strengths and talents. For example, Aristotle once said, “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” Even John Calvin alluded to the power of knowing oneself by declaring, “True wisdom comes from two things: knowledge of self and knowledge of God.”
In fact, knowing our strengths, weaknesses, insecurities and temptations is a powerful catalyst in helping us better understand why we do what we do and how our behaviors, reactions and desires are triggered. This understanding often leads us to a place of humility and even empathy for others. It allows us to engage at deeper levels with others, build stronger relations and make greater impact. It also promotes gratitude and generosity.
The better we understand our needs and the needs of others, the more it empowers us to be better distributors of kindness.