The Right People Help Innovator Brains Stay Focused
By Carol Gignoux, Coach, Live ADHD Free
Compensating Mechanism #3: Your People Support Network
In our work together so far we have:
- Looked at your super strength called compensating and how that works for you in general to make up for the disparities caused by a roving brain.
- Learned about: “Planning Ahead: Five Steps to Creating a Habit that will Save Your Butt” that taught you how to gain control over your impulsivity so you could get things done and meet the obligations and expectations of those around you.
- Today we are going to take a look at the third most important compensating mechanism: Your People Support Network and how to further structure your life so you can make the most of your relationships and the people that surround you.
I have often heard it said from successful Innovator brain types (those mislabeled ADHD) that if it were not for the people who supported them, they would never have made it. Picasso made the point often and so did Kennedy, Churchill, Einstein, and many others.
Have you ever wondered why so many CEOs, CCOs, CFOs and other top people have ADHD? Ask yourself where support is more likely to be found than with our top creative problem solvers and inventors – the movers and shakers that keep the economy humming and keep their companies and charitable organizations profitable. Take a look at your own life. Didn’t you always seem to do better when you had others supporting you?
The reason for this is that other people keep us focused so our eyes stay on the prize. They ask questions and make suggestions that keep us choosing the best alternative. They make sure we don’t forget things, have the resources we need and follow through so we get things done on time. They don’t let us botch things up because we forgot to communicate something vital to a good outcome. Just like all the different people that support CEOs, our support network makes sure we stay focused and on track.
Support people come in all varieties: Coaches, therapists, psychiatrists, marketing teams, research teams, secretaries, receptionists, business managers, teachers, advisors, colleagues, friends, husbands, wives and parents. There are many others of course.
Our job is to choose the best ones for our unique situations. Our job is not to hide from help because we are embarrassed they might think we are incapable of doing things on our own. That is a myth from childhood that needs to go away. We need to understand that for most of us to be reliably and consistently successful, we must create and maintain a solid support structure and network of people who are there in our best interest.
There is a popular saying, “You can never have too much help” and for people with this brain type that is certainly true.
I promise that if you use this strategy, you will get where you want to go more quickly with fewer mistakes or detours. And instead of struggling on your own, it’s going to be more fun and much more rewarding to be building great relationships along the way!
Your Support Network
Here are your steps to creating the best support network ever:
Search out the best possibilities. These are the people and teams that could work for you. Don’t be afraid about the cost or worrying it’s too much to ask or what happens if they say no. Your job is to find the right ones and get them to say yes.
Try them out. Not all of the people we get on our side may work out at the beginning. If you don’t hit it right the first time, try again until you do.
Set specific goals. Determine how each person will be supporting you. Decide how you can best use what each offers.
Measure your progress. Is the path to the vision you have for yourself and your future being fortified – is progress being made quickly enough? Where are the holes? What needs to change? Are you happy?
Learn as you go. Trust your gut and know that you are the master of your destiny and you will know what to do to maximize the gifts of your team of supporters.
Carol Gignoux is a coach, trainer and motivational expert in the world of achievement and productivity with a 40-year background in educating and training people of all ages. She is well established as an expert in ADHD Coaching with more than 16 years of experience. For the past decade she has engaged in extensive research. You can find Carol’s just published book:
Your Innovator Brain — The Truth About ADHD
in online booksellers like Amazon.com and BarnesandNoble.com and on local Barnes and Noble bookshelves Contact her at 706-955-9063 or carol@liveADHDfree.com.